Picking up women at gay bar

Wind Veteran. Might be going to the local gay bar in town this weekend. If I see anyone I like, what should I say to her to get her number or something? Last time I swapped numbers with someone at this bar, this girl used me sexually after we'd hung out a few times, took my favourite dog tags, and she told me 2 days later I'm ugly and not interested in me, when I asked her if she'd go out with me begin a relationship and turned it around on me saying I never said the relationship was exclusive when she was kissing another girl in the bar.

So yeah, I don't want that to happen again, so how can I avoid being anxious and stuff, and how to get myself out there?

Straight women hijacking gay bars

I'm not looking for a one night stand, I'd like to start a relationship with someone once I get to know them a lot for some time, and I've run out of options of where to meet people. I tried meetups on meetup. In straight bars, a lot of the men there who pick up women seem to be only after one thing I really have no idea how it is for a woman trying to pick up another woman.

Sorry, I can't be of more help. Also really sorry to hear you had a bad experience. Perhaps don't do anything sexual until you know you can trust them Wind wrote: Any advice? Be yourself, and don't be afraid to tell someone what needs to be said. I'm sure if you find someone with your personality, they'd not want to be used either.

Hope it helped. DukeJanTheGrey Velociraptor. I wish i could help but i'm scared of women. GivePeaceAChance Veteran. In my area there is not an exclusively lesbian bar but one o fthe clubs does have nights that concentrate on womyn. I pretty much only go on those nights. I did not meet anyone to date but have made friends most of the crowd is younger than I am.

PerfectlyDarkTails Veteran. Ive had a keen interest to visiting a gay clup, but I couldn't see the experience any differently from standard clubs. Places like that though is aften a sensory overloading nightmare to even be socially interested. What I've known from word of mouth is that gay bars do tend to be much more sexually charged, to within British male to male gay culture at least.

PerfectlyDarkTails wrote: Eh Most people go to bars looking for a hookup, if that's your thing, go have fun.